Question: Do you have any advice on how I can stay motivated?

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Answer #1:

First you must stop with the "for him," and start with the "for me." You need to find what makes "you" happy. Stop putting all the stress on yourself. If you do your part to make things happen, make sure your partner is doing their part. You can not do it all. I don't know if you have a relationship with god, but thats the best relationship to have. He'll help you push through when no one else can.

Answer #2:

The fact that you realize your responsibilities and want to fulfill them means that you are getting a headstart in being successful at reaching your long term goals which appear to include living independently and financially supporting yourself. This is a fantastic start. Now you want to continue upward. You want to do this, which means that you have a will to do it. That is very important, because you have a mind to do what is right. Be encouraged! Don't give up. Please realize that anything that is difficult to overcome or accomplish is not going to be accomplished in a short period of time. You can set a list of priorities. You can write them down and check them off as you complete them. They can be divided into short term goals and long term goals. Under those goals the steps and tasks that must be completed to reach those goals can be written. As they are completed, check them off. I guarantee that you will receive a sense of accomplishment,
The check offs will also motivate you to continue because you will see what you have accomplished and be proud of your accomplishments. God loves you, you were made in his image and deserve to be blessed, NOT STRESSED. Best wishes for a victorious life!

Answer #3:

First of all you need to recognise how well you are already doing to have got to this stage in life. You have realised what you need to do to sort your life out so you feel it is less stressful.
It is good to have love & respect for someone so much you drag yourself through hell to make them happy but this in the long term will not be a Solution. All that will happen is you will burn yourself out which in turn will force you to take several steps backwards. Start living your life for you but remember you can also enjoy sharing you with someone else. Only when you can learn to want life to work for you again can you Truly be motivated each day to get up & get on with a task.

When you have grasped this concept move onto the second stage, start focusing at first on a week at a time. 11 months is a goal but at the moment for someone who finds motivation hard will seem like a really big goal. Before you know it a week will have turned into a month & so forth. One day a weak get your diary out & plan for the week ahead with just the essential things you MUST achieve & when you notice each week you are coping with the weeks tasks start adding in 1 extra goal a day you would like to try and aim to achieve. It might just be something like take a nice long Bath so i feel pampered. Soon you should start getting your self confidence back which help greatly with motivation.

Final stage is....... try to keep this up for life, & organised person is a much happier person. You will find you have more time then you realised. Try to learn to enjoy YOUR life again & i bet you will notice a big difference in how your husband enjoys his. Make time for YOU!

Good Luck & remember if times have already been hard & husband is still with you at the end of the hardest part it is because he loves you & sees something special in you so stop feeling bad about before & focus on the happily ever after.





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